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Starting Over After 40 Series

Starting over after 40 doesn’t come with a clean slate. It comes with receipts. Memories. Patterns you’ve outgrown and instincts you’re relearning how to trust. Here’s the thing about 2025—it didn’t wrap itself up in a neat little bow. It closed like most real years do. 2025 didn’t hand me easy wins, but it did hand me clarity, a few bruises, and a quiet knowing that I’m not the same person who walked into it.

Here’s what this year has taught me:

Fear and desperation are expensive. They make you rush, settle, blur boundaries, explain yourself too much, say yes when your spirit is quietly screaming no, and make you forget who you are.. Nothing aligned is built from panic. Nothing sustainable comes from survival mode.

Anxiety lives in two places. The past and the future. The moment you return to now, it loses its grip. Anxiety showed up anytime I lived too far in the past or worried about trouble from the future. Peace only existed when I stayed right here, in the now. Presence isn’t poetic it’s practical. It’s where true peace actually exists.

I had to forgive myself. Really forgive myself. Not just for my mistakes, but for ignoring my intuition when it was right all along. Re-learning to trust yourself again after life humbles you is a process. But is very necessary.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth: Most people are not thinking about your struggles. Not because they’re cruel, but because they’re busy carrying their own or pretending they don’t exist. This realization is freeing. It reminded me to stop seeking validation and start choosing alignment.

Faith is not optional. If you don’t KNOW you can, then you can’t. Doubt is louder after 40 because experience has taught it how to speak. Confidence, now, has to be more intentional.

Forgiveness isn’t reconciliation. It’s about my own peace. It’s choosing not to bleed on tomorrow because of yesterday. It’s setting yourself free without an apology from anyone else.

I’ve also learned, Being inconsiderate is a passive aggressive form of disrespect. It hides behind excuses and smiles, but your body always recognizes it before your mind does. Trust that signal.

SPEAK YOUR TRUTH! It will cost you some relationships but save you from losing yourself. Silence may keep the peace, but it also builds resentment and it keeps you small.

Time is sacred. Embrace it. Slow down. There are moments you don’t get back, no matter how much growth you extract from them.

Some things are not meant to be figured out. They’re meant to be surrendered. Faith steps in where logic reaches its limit, and sometimes that’s the whole point.

Most of all, I learned: it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to not have the answers. It’s okay if no one understands your path. And it is absolutely okay to start over as many times as you need. Starting over isn’t failure. It’s alignment catching up with courage.

So this isn’t a recap. It’s a reset.

As I step into the Starting Over After 40 series, we’re going deeper—into letting go, rebuilding confidence, redefining purpose, trusting yourself again, and most importantly, creating a life that feels aligned instead of just acceptable.

2025 gave me the lessons.

What comes next is the becoming.

XOXO 💋