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Self-care has been a heavy topic lately. Although, self-care is a major necessity, why does it seem as though there is a great emphasis on this? There are countless articles and courses. You can also find master classes and social media posts. Anything you can think of is related to the topic. Are we, as humans, drained by the constant need to be on the go? Must we always be in the know and hustle hard to be that “one”? Or, it be the constant desire to get to the top? At the same time, are we making ourselves available to all things, to everyone, at any time? Whew! Sounds exhausting, doesn’t it?

There is a common knowledge that love is a choice not just a feeling. So keep that in mind when you think of yourself and how you care for yourself. The act of self-care is the presence of self-love. This is not a selfish act, but crucial for survival. You need to take this step. It helps you live the best out of the one and only life you have.

Self Love vs Self Care

The older I get, the more I start to understand the importance of self-care. I can appreciate quiet time or time alone. When you can love yourself well, is when you can best love others. It’s easy to care about everything and everyone around you but you have to put yourself first in the equation. By doing so, you’ll effortlessly have grace and mercy for others. To promote a healthier lifestyle of self-love, start by creating a weekly regimen. Make a “self-care” calendar to help keep this a priority in your life. Then make a list of things you enjoy and schedule a day or time to indulge. Everything doesn’t have to cost.

How you treat people is a reflection of what is on the inside of you (your heart). If I am short and snapping at others, I’ve realized there is usually something more going on. This behavior is not my norm. Most, I’m feeling depleted. It is because of the person I’m short with. Alternatively, it is because I haven’t taken the proper time and care for myself. Here are some ways that will help with expanding your self-love journey.

10 Ways To Practice Self Love

1. Protect your peace! (control what you consume mentally)
2. Practice meditation
3. Journal
4. Forgive yourself
5. Learn to say no
6. Do something small or large daily that you love
7. Drink lots of water
8. Speak with therapist or counselor
9. Allow others to love you
10. Give yourself grace and be patient with your process

10 Self Love Affirmations

1. I release all doubt and insecurities about myself
2. I deserve peace and happiness in life
3. I deserve to live a life I desire
4. I deserve to be treated well
5. I am beautiful inside and out
6. I am allowed to be myself
7. I am worthy of the love I give so freely to others
8. My feelings matter
9. I am able and capable
10. I am worth the investment

Self-love & self-care ever-evolving necessities in life. There will be times for you to sit back and reflect on how you are loving yourself. You question whether or not you have pulled away from choosing you. There are also times when you will need to retreat to renew and rejuvenate. Whatever this looks like for you, only you can make decisions on what process best fits you.

To conclude, When you lack true identity and self-love, you look for it in other people and things. The key to a successful and fulfilling relationship with yourself is to own your own happiness. People and things cannot create your happiness, your happiness starts with you. Self acceptance, no one is perfect no matter how hard they try to be. Accept your flaws. If you feel the need to change something about yourself, ensure you are changing for the right reasons. Do it only for you. The bottom line is to simply Enjoy your relationship with yourself and learn how to not sweat the small stuff. Trust me, you’ll be more at peace and free.